Non-spousal primary: You have four lovers. You need four times the normal clothing budget.
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Spouse: Ever since we opened up, you’ve gotten a lot more... shoes.
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My lovers all have taste. Unfortunately for my wallet and closet space, it’s not the same taste.
There’s the one who likes bright sundresses that bare the shoulders, the one who prefers skin-tight black, and the one who doesn’t like skirt-shaped objects at all. There’s the one who can’t stand synthetic fabrics, and the one who responds well to latex. There’s the one who likes platform fuck-me heels, and the ones who don’t like any lift at all. There’s the one who likes the look of almost going hiking, and the several who like the look of almost doing yoga.
Packing for a trip is much more straightforward if I’m only going to see one lover at a time.
Shopping for clothes turns into an optimization problem for an extra level of consideration. Not only do I pay attention to the normal considerations of how flattering is the look, to what occasions I’d be able to wear it, cost, quality, and applicability to my wardrobe as a whole--I also get to think about for whom I get to wear it. It makes clothes shopping almost not worth the hassle.
Then again, there are some surprising overlaps. Everyone seems to like the jeans my non-spousal primary invested hours into researching for/with me. Well, except the one who just doesn't like jeans. They all seem to agree on the yoga wear. Which is good, because that stuff is pretty much indestructible, and I don't like replacing it. The best option I have been able to come up with is to more or less tailor the clothes I wear to the lover (the spouse gets to see it all, so good thing he has broad tastes) and replace or update often.
So yes. Multiply the clothing budget by number of lovers. Or just ignore their preferences and do whatever the heck you feel like.
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Questions or comments? I’ve got opinions! Try me at polysaturated@rocketmail.com.
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Spouse: Ever since we opened up, you’ve gotten a lot more... shoes.
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My lovers all have taste. Unfortunately for my wallet and closet space, it’s not the same taste.
There’s the one who likes bright sundresses that bare the shoulders, the one who prefers skin-tight black, and the one who doesn’t like skirt-shaped objects at all. There’s the one who can’t stand synthetic fabrics, and the one who responds well to latex. There’s the one who likes platform fuck-me heels, and the ones who don’t like any lift at all. There’s the one who likes the look of almost going hiking, and the several who like the look of almost doing yoga.
Packing for a trip is much more straightforward if I’m only going to see one lover at a time.
Shopping for clothes turns into an optimization problem for an extra level of consideration. Not only do I pay attention to the normal considerations of how flattering is the look, to what occasions I’d be able to wear it, cost, quality, and applicability to my wardrobe as a whole--I also get to think about for whom I get to wear it. It makes clothes shopping almost not worth the hassle.
Then again, there are some surprising overlaps. Everyone seems to like the jeans my non-spousal primary invested hours into researching for/with me. Well, except the one who just doesn't like jeans. They all seem to agree on the yoga wear. Which is good, because that stuff is pretty much indestructible, and I don't like replacing it. The best option I have been able to come up with is to more or less tailor the clothes I wear to the lover (the spouse gets to see it all, so good thing he has broad tastes) and replace or update often.
So yes. Multiply the clothing budget by number of lovers. Or just ignore their preferences and do whatever the heck you feel like.
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Questions or comments? I’ve got opinions! Try me at polysaturated@rocketmail.com.
Girlthing here and I don't care WHAT you wear, for the record. :D
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